Sigh. Women. [shaking head in frustration]

Yes, you heard that right. This is the third time in a week I’ve started this post. And with good reason.  We are, really, such a petty species. We are uber-sensitive, over-analyzing and, really, just plain ridiculous.

Ladies, we take so many stupid things way too seriously. We jump to conclusions. We chat behind people’s backs. We avoid confrontation for fear of offending. Instead, we gossip. And then the gossip gets around and we hear something third hand and the offense is ten-fold.

And then there are those of us who aren’t afraid of confrontation. We thrive on it. We jump to it because its “healthy” for a relationship. Rather than think things through, we assume, yell, wave our hands and accuse. And then, of course, we have the inevitable tears. Because, OMG, I just actuallly said that! Or, OMG, she just actually said that to me!

Following either circumstance, we, the women, begin to over analyze (again) the situation. We cry. We worry. We chat about it to others. Who then chat to others because, of course, we gossip. And then we worry. We lose sleep. We try to discuss with our husband’s who throw up their hands and say,  “you’re just all being such women.”

They’re right.

Now, not being one to complain without offering a solution, I’m offering a mini-solution. You see, I still want to be a woman. I want to analyze, think things through. I don’t want to well things up inside because then, like men, I’ll blow up with frustration at some point.

But, ladies, let’s try to talk things through for real. Let’s not try to hide behind excuses. And let’s not accuse before knowing the whole story. Let’s see things from all perspectives, not just one. Let’s actually be open to the idea that she’s not you and you’re not her and your brains may not function in the same way.

Let’s play shrink and try to see things from someone else’s point of view. Even better, let’s just ask. In a polite way. Let’s not jump and scream and accuse and then get all pink in the face with glistening eyes. Let’s politely say, “why did you do that?” And let’s say that before its too late. Before a little grumble becomes a huge grouch.

See, it’d all be so much easier if we didn’t jump to conclusions and didn’t stop to dwell. Ladies, let’s search for a happy medium. Because, honestly, I’m tired of playing middle-woman between people’s issues and I’m tired of people guessing and assuming without just asking.

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mom of 3 and wife, Julie is a former elementary school teacher and a Public Relations manager. She is the owner/editor of Just Precious, founding partner of Just Centsible, and a team member of Splash Creative Media. Julie is a PTOer, volunteer, elementary educator and that's just the beginning of the list!

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